Path and Shadow

 

Okay, I feel that this post needs a small bit of explanation. I’m straying from my normal content of talking about spiritual matters and #real life. Instead I have decided to share with you, dear reader, something that few have gotten to see outside of some close friends. Below is a short story I wrote a few months ago. I penned this while part of a writing group called the Pretentious Bastards. While it is not my usual blogging style, I hope you read and enjoy.

-Preachygrub

 

Path and Shadow

Sunlight breathed into the mouth of the small cave. A boney arm shot up and slashed a rock across a stone wall. The woman made the mark before she had even opened her eyes. It was habit now; simple breathing.

She rolled and sat up. Her dirty nails ran through her dirtier still mane of white and gray tangles. She looked over at the wall as she stretched. The length was covered in white tallies. Once she had used the lines to keep track of how long she had been here. Now, however, with the majority of the marks fading, she supposed it just gave her a sense of order. It helped to keep the shadows at bay. There were far too many here, both in her mind and in the forest.

A faint melody swam through the wind. She closed her eyes and turned her ear towards the breeze. Taking in the musk of the woods, she listened to its music. The song rose with the hum of the wind, rustling through the crackle of autumn leaves. Then she heard the smallest hints of a voice. Her eyes sprung open. What fresh hell was this?

She jumped to her feet, knees and ankles protesting at the sudden movement. The wind swept at her faded blue dress, fanning it out against her legs as she leaned out of the cave mouth. She craned her neck. There. She heard it again. It was coming closer; the voice of a girl.

She scrambled down the stony path that led from the cave she called home. As she got to the bottom of the hill she snatched a large stick from behind a boulder without breaking stride and dashed further into the forest.

It took her less than a minute to find the girl. She was leaning over something and whispering in a hushed tone. The woman took a step forward to get a better look. As she did so a fox flicked its ears up and with a flash of its black tail the animal turned and ran. There was a small patch of white fabric on one of its paws and as it ran she noticed the faintest hints of a limp.

The girl spun around and peered into the forest, looking for what had spooked the fox. She gazed for several moments before letting out a scream and jumping back as caught sight of the woman. Her eyes went from the knotted stick she carried, to her wild hair, to the faded dress she wore, with a couple of stops along the way.

Likewise, the woman stared back at the girl. She was a blond wisp of a thing, all curls and frizz with barely any meat on her bones. Her jeans were more not-there than there, one tan knee completely hanging free from the denim, and her shirt was cropped short revealing a belly piercing.

“Who are you?” The girl asked. “Where am I?”

The woman frowned. “How did you get here?”  She didn’t bother to answer the girl’s question.

If the lack of response bothered her, the girl didn’t show it. “Dunno. I’m trying not to think about it too much. I’m afraid this is a dream and if I poke it the bubble will pop.”

The woman huffed again. Dream? “More like death trap.”

The girl met her eyes for a moment. They were a bright blue with amber at the centers, “Death trap? How could you call this-“ she lifted her hands and gave a half twirl, taking in the beauty of the forest around her, “A death trap? It’s amazing.”

The woman looked up at what the girl was pointing to. The forest was full of large oaks with branches thick as a person. Their grey bark had patches of white underneath that gave the woods a serene atmosphere. Adding to the unreal nature of the forest were the floating trees. Several of the oaks hovered ten feet or more off the ground, their roots bunched under them with bits of loose soil still hanging on for dear life. They swayed in the wind, tilting ever so slightly and moving back and forth as the breeze kissed their leaves.

“Yea. I used to think they were pretty too.” The woman all but cackled. “Until he almost dropped one on my head”

“Until who-“ The girl started to ask.

The woman whirled around. Her mere mention of him brought the danger back to the forefront of her attention. She had to get back to her cave. She had to find the-. The path was gone. The small bits of stone and depressed grass were nowhere to be found. She knew she wasn’t missing them because the way she had just come was blocked by an oak; this one still in the ground. The place behind it was a wall of dirt at least five feet high.

She ran to the wall, ignoring the girl as she asked what was wrong. There had to be a mistake, he couldn’t have taken it. Not after she’d worked so hard to find a safe place. Not after she had come so close. Maybe she just missed it somehow. “No!” She shouted. “It can’t be gone!”

“What?” The girl behind her asked. Her eyes searched the ground, helping to look for whatever the woman had lost.

“The path to my cave. It’s gone.”

“Where? Behind the tree?”

The woman whirled around, her eyes a combination of fear and rage. She thrust the stick she held at the girl’s chest. “You’re with him, aren’t you?” She snarled. “What? You think it’s funny to take my home and leave me defenseless?”

She girl backed away. “What are you talking about? I’m dreaming. None of this is even real. I was just studying for my nursing exam when I feel asleep and woke up here.” The girl’s voice quivered in fear as the woman advanced. A quick slash of the stick took the girl’s feet out from under her and she fell with a shriek.

“Name!” The woman yelled.

“What?”

“Name!”

“Liz! Elizabeth Newman!” The girl shouted, tears forming in her eyes.

The woman’s eyes widened and she nearly lost the grip on her stick. Her lips formed soundless words.

“I want to go home. I want out of this stupid enchanted forest-“

“No!” The woman shouted.

They both jumped as a thunderclap rattled the trees around them. Before it could register the sky poured out a bucket of water over the forest. Rain fell in fistfuls of drops.

“No!” The woman shouted again, whirling back to the dirt wall. Her hands groped at the ground, clawing at the loose soil. “I have to get back! I have to get back!” She screamed.

Liz sat on the ground, still stunned, as the raindrops turned the ground to mud and water began to form puddles at an alarming rate. “What are you doing?” She yelled. “It’s pouring, we need to find shelter!” When the woman didn’t respond Liz stood up and grabbed her arm. Rather than strike her, the woman slumped into the dirt. “Come on!” She yelled, pulling again.

Lightning slammed into a tree. The bolt was a blast of pure daylight that left the women seeing stars and sent bark flying in every direction. Liz turned the other direction and ran towards the nearest floating oak. Her feet sloshed through puddles that were already halfway up her ankles. Just as she came to the bottom of the roots she heard splashes behind her. She turned to see the woman sprinting towards her. She leapt into the air took hold of the lowest roots, pulling herself up with a nimbleness that left Liz stunned and gawking.

A second bolt of lightning slammed into one of the floating oaks. The wood groaned as the whole tree fell, its invisible strings shattered by electricity. The impact shook the ground under Liz’s feet and snapped her out of her shock. Wading through the water that was now almost to her shins, Liz managed to hook her arms around a root and pull just enough to also wrap her legs around another support. She twisted into an upright position and quickly climbed up the twisted wood. She glanced at the ground as she climbed and pictured it rushing up to meet her as the tree fell. She swallowed and prayed that nothing struck this oak.

Inside the root system the storm sounded calm, soothing even. The thunder came through as muted rumbling and the rain mostly left them alone except for the occasional drop that managed to work its way through. The woman sat in her perch, staring at Liz as she climbed. She didn’t say anything as the girl sat down and started to work her fingers through her hair. After a few moments Liz heard the silence and looked up. Her hands fell into her lap as she noticed the older woman staring.

“So… who are you?” She asked.

The woman considered her question for a moment. “Morgan. You can call me Morgan.”

“Okay… Morgan. What is this place? Is it real?”

The woman coughed out a laugh that had no humor in it. “It’s real enough; my bones still ache when it rains and falling hurts like shit. Sure we are in a floating tree, but sweetheart this isn’t a dream. Also, whatever this place is, I’ll warn you; it is dangerous.”

“Dangerous? How can this enchanted-“

“Don’t!” Morgan yelled. “Don’t name him again. You name him, you give him power.”

“What?”

“Just don’t name the forest. Okay?”

Liz frowned but didn’t say anything.

“How long have you been here?” Morgan asked.

“A couple of hours. Why?”

“Good, tomorrow we’re finding the path and getting you out of here.”

“What? Why would I want to go? Other than you going crazy on me this forest is beautiful.”

The woman looked down from her perch at the girl. She stared for a moment without saying anything. “Because I can’t leave. This forest is magical; and part of that magic is that if you stay here too long, three days to be precise, you can’t leave.”

The girl’s eyes grew large. “What?” Her voice quivered. “That’s not possible.”

“It is…trust me.” Morgan said. She turned and twisted on the roots until the knobs were out of her back. “Now, get some sleep. Tomorrow is going to be a long day.”

Morgan woke up to something digging into her side. She opened her eyes and slowly a strange arrangement of knotted branches came into view. No… roots. There were bits of soil hanging from a few of them. She groaned as she sat up, holding onto a root above her to keep from toppling from her makeshift bed.

Below her a girl gave a soft moan. Morgan looked down to see a figure in ripped up jeans sleeping below her. She frowned. Her hand found a stick sitting on one of the roots near her shoulder and she grabbed it.

The butt of the stick jabbed into the girl’s ribs. She gasped and jerked away. The roll nearly sent her tumbling out of the tree but for a lucky flail of her arms. “Oww! Morgan, what the hell?”

“Who are you? How do you know my name?” Morgan said, giving the girl another jab with her stick.

“It’s me. Liz?” The girl said. “You found me here yesterday. Remember?”

Morgan frowned.

“Come on. We need to find a way out of here.” Liz groaned as she sat up, rubbing her lower back. She looked through the roots below her and carefully picked her way down. When she got to the bottom she held onto the lowest branch she could find and dropped. The result wasn’t exactly graceful, but she managed to land on her feet.

Morgan followed her. Her neck was stiff from sleeping in the tree roots and twice her right leg almost gave out on her and she climbed down. Her feet, however, were sturdy and she even managed to swing down with certain ease. She brushed dust off her dress- how had she allowed it to get so filthy- and looked around.

Liz was staring at the forest open mouthed.

“What?” Morgan asked.

“It’s all different. The path, the hills. The ground isn’t even wet.”

Morgan looked around. They were in the middle of a forest full of straight tall trees with brilliant red leaves and dark brown bark. They must have slept until midday because it was dark and the leaves cast shadows all over the forest floor. Only, the sun was just rising. There was a massive hill leading in a steep slope just to her left. It rose taller than the trees. They were standing in the middle of a clearing- a path of sorts, that lead into the distance.

“Are the trees floating? What is this place? How did I get here? Where are Herb and Vern? They were supposed to bring me home.” Morgan sputtered. She gripped her stick tight and looked around the woods.

“What? Who are Herb and Vern? Are they part of your camp?” Liz asked.

Morgan said nothing, simply wrang her hands around her stick and looked at the ground.

“Look, we can’t stay here. Remember? This place looks pretty but it’s dangerous? Plus we need to get me out of here before the three days are up and I’m stuck here forever.”

“What?” Morgan yelled. “I’m going to be stuck here?”

Liz stammered a response. “I thought you had been here for a while. You made it seem like you knew this place. How long have you been here?”

“Two days.” The older woman answered without hesitating. “Come on, I need to get back to Vern. He’ll be worried sick.

Without waiting for her, Morgan hurried down the path. Liz walked behind her and had to half jog to keep up. Morgan didn’t bother to talk to her or ask questions. The shadows kept the path hidden and for a moment Liz lost Morgan as she rounded a tree and started up the hill. When she got to the top she could see that the forest was starting to thin out, and the few trees that remained at the bottom were floating. Her joy was short lived, however, as on the way down both women were forced to move from tree to tree, securing every foothold lest the soil slip and throw them to the bottom of the hill. By the time the sun was straight overhead the two women were breathing heavy, starving, and eager for a break. The shadows were getting thicker.

Liz collapsed on the ground and pulled off her shoes. The heel of her one foot was bright red. She rubbed it gently, cursing under her breath as she winced in pain. Morgan joined her on the ground, her own feet, as well as her hips and knees, aching from the long walk.

“How are you managing this?” Liz asked. “You have to be what? Eighty? I’m about ready to collapse.”

“I’ll have you know I’m not even seventy yet.” Morgan huffed. “And maybe if your generation did more than sit in front of the idiot box all day with your shows and your video games, you could keep up.”

Liz bit her tongue. They rested for a few moments longer before resuming their downhill journey. Liz concentrated on picking her steps down the hill as they neared the bottom. Morgan, however, was perfectly content to continue the conversation, oblivious to the offense she had delivered.

“I don’t know where you got that this place is dangerous. It seems nice, like the hundred acre woods.”

“Don’t name it.” Liz cautioned.

“What?”

“You told me yesterday that naming it gives him power.” She grabbed a sapling to steady herself and jumped the last few feet to the bottom.

“Gives who power? Don’t tell me you’re one of those new age- oh what are they called? Wiccans. Don’t tell me you’re a Wiccan or something. Names just describe things. They don’t give any more power than a simple understanding.” Morgan took the final step down the hill and joined her on the forest floor.

“Look,” Liz snapped. “I don’t know what game you are playing here. But, after you almost broke my ankle with that damn stick of yours, you screamed at me not to name this place.”

Morgan huffed. “I have no idea what you are talking about.”

Liz practically growled. “Are you serious? You know I’m starting to think you’ve been here way too long; like you’ve lost it or something.”

“Don’t you take that tone with me, young lady. Honestly, people used to respect their elders. I’m starting to think I should look for this way out on my own. Even if I do get stuck here this place doesn’t seem so bad, as long as I lose the company. And I think I’ll call it the Enchanted Forest.”

Liz yelled as she heard Morgan uttering the words, but it was too late. She whirled around, hoping the previous night had been a fluke. And, for a moment, she thought nothing bad was going to happen. Then a hollow rattle sounded in the trees above her. Liz whirled, eyes searching the branches for whatever was making the noise. A second rattling joined the first, this time behind her. As she looked for the creatures making the noise a third and then a fourth joined in until the entire forest thundered all around her.

Goose pricks trailed down Liz’s neck. As she turned she caught sight of movement in a nearby tree. She strained against the shadows and was able to make out a body crawling down the trunk of one of the redwoods. It was as long as she was tall with skin that shone in the bit of sunlight that managed to break through the leaves and shadows. It hit the forest floor and scurried forward.

“Run!” She screamed as she saw the thing racing towards her. Its  neck rose up like a viper, thick as her legs. Six legs pounded the dirt as it roared towards Morgan. The older woman looked back just as the creature towered over her. She jumped forward in time to avoid a wicked looking red stinger that buried itself in the dirt.

Liz grabbed the older woman and dashed into the woods. The rattling buzz followed them as they ducked and weaved between branches. The tree trunks looked alive with motion as more of the colossal bugs crawled onto the forest floor.

“We can’t outrun them!” Morgan shouted. The older woman stooped low to avoid a branch that Liz couldn’t see. “We need to find shelter!”

She couldn’t think of a single place they could hide from the swarm that now followed them. Ahead she saw wings flit and a pair of the giant insects flew through the air, landing on a tree ahead of them. Morgan struck something against her stick and suddenly flames burst to life. Without hesitating she whirled around and slashed her torch through the air. Something hissed and Liz saw sparks eat away at a glossy set of wings.

“Quick, gather wood!” Morgan shouted as she slashed her stick through the air once more.

“What?”

“Fire. We need to make a big one; maybe it will keep them away.”

“These are bugs. Won’t that just attract them?”

“You have a better idea?” Morgan yelled as she threw a pile of sticks together.

Liz didn’t, so she quickly started gathering wood, hoping the woman’s idea wasn’t about to get them killed. The branches were surprisingly dry considering the rain the previous day. She grabbed some pine needles and thrust them into the flames of Morgan’s stick. When they burst to life she was able to use them to light a small fire. From there it was only a matter of time before she had a respectable blaze going. She put a large piece of wood into the middle of the flames and waited. Once it caught she pulled it out and brandished it like a sword, covering their backs while Morgan watched their other side.

It took a few minutes, and the rattling still filled the forest air, but gradually Liz noticed that the dry rustle of movement on the forest floor had subsided. The pair stood guard a short eternity longer until even the rattling of the insects slowly faded away. With a sigh, Liz turned and put her stick back into the fire. “How did you do that?” She asked the older woman.

“What?” Morgan frowned.

“That.” Liz said, pointing to the end of Morgan’s stick, which was still smoldering.

Morgan shrugged, “I’m not sure, I just grabbed some dry pine needles and a rock.”

“Have you really only been here for two days?” Liz asked.

“What?”

“Nevermind,“  Liz said.

“No“, Morgan said, raising her voice. “You’ve clearly got something to say. I’m only confused, lost, and scared half out my witts, but clearly I am lying about how long I’ve been in these damn woods.“

Liz opened her mouth to apologize or object, she hadn’t made up her mind when there was a loud hiss. Here eys widened in horror as Morgan jerked forward. A hairy, knotted tail slammed the woman in to the dust. The base of a red barb was barely visible rising from the small of her back.

With a yell Liz grabbed a stick from the fire. She crossed the distance between her and Morgan in a single step and rammed the end into the middle of a cluseter of eyes. The bug shrieked in pain as the embers put out several of its yellow eyes. Liz put her weight behind the makeshift spear, shoving past the resistance. There was a crack and the stick jumped forward, nearly causing her to fall into the insect. Hot liquid splashed onto her hands as she struggled to keep her feet. Liz gagged and pushed away. She turned and yanked the stinger out of Morgan’s back. The woman lay prone and unmoving in the dirt. Liz knelt next to her and slowly rolled her onto her back. Her heart fell as she saw thin dribbles of white foam leaking from the woman’s lips.

Liz sat next to the fire, her head in her hands. She hadn’t heard any hissing or rattling from the shadows in what must have been hours. The stomach of her shirt was ripped and the bits of fabric were pressed against Morgan’s shoulders. Next to her the fire popped sending sparks into the air. She didn’t hear the twig snap behind her.

“Hello” A voice chirped.

Liz jumped to her feet and whirled around. Standing behind her was… a boy. He had shaggy black hair and stood about to where her tattered shirt hung on her ribs.

“Who the hell are you? How did you get here?” She asked, backing towards the fire.

The boy just looked at her. Something about his eyes unnerved Liz. It wasn’t their green color, although it they shifted with a range of hues that reminded Liz of the tree leaves above her. It was the way the peered at her-through her, as if he could see into her mind.

The boy stood there without saying anything, just staring at her. “Can I sit down?” I finally asked, eyeing the fire.

Liz nodded. Her foot tapped the stick that Morgan had been carrying and she knelt to pick it up, never taking her eyes off the boy.

“Who are you?” She asked.

“I’m him.” The boy said.

“Him?”

The boy walked past her, towards the fire. Rather than sitting next to its heat, he kept going. When he was a good ten paces away, he stopped next to a sapling  that was struggling to grow amidst the shadows of the larger trees.

“What-“ Liz started. Her words caught in her throat as the boy scooped his hand into dirt as easily as if he dipping it into a puddle. He lifted his hand and the sapling came with it, soil and roots scooped into a bowl in his palm. Then he lifted the dirt just shy of his lips and blew a whisper across the roots. Liz saw the faintest hints of light surround the sapling just before it floated into the breeze.

“Wha-“

“I am the forest.” The boy said again, turning to smirk at her.

Liz struggled to find her voice as a thousand questions fought to rise to the surface. How was he- What did he wan- Why did he-. They all clogged in her throat and left her open mouthed and stammering. The boy giggled. The sound was so unlike anything else Liz had heard for the last twenty-four hours that she jumped back and tensed at the noise.

“It’s okay. I’m not going to hurt you.” He walked back towards the fire and sat on the ground next to where Morgan lay. Liz was shocked to see him run his fingers through her hair. “I’m not evil you know.” He looked at the older woman and seemed to search for what to say next. “Morgan came to me a long time ago. She loved this place at first. In fact the floating oaks were her idea.” His expression changed and he looked sad. “But she’s been alone a long time, and she isn’t well.”

“It’s Dementia, isn’t it?” Liz whispered.

The boy nodded. “She has her lucid moments, but they are getting fewer and farther between. The shadows are growing. She doesn’t remember anymore, but she chose to come here just after her children died in a car accident. She’s been here almost ten years now.”

“She told me it had only been two days.” Liz said.

The boy nodded. “She just turned seventy-eight yesterday.”

“Why did you make bad things happen when we said your name?” Liz asked.

The boy shook his head. “I didn’t. And you really think my name is the Enchanted Forest?“

Liz felt her cheeks go red. She had, actually, until right about now.

“There is a lot of power in this place, when you tried to name me you described part of that. It tapped into that magic and let you control some of the power. The bad things came from you.“

Liz’s face must have been some reflexion of horrified as she thought of the flood that had almost drowned them; of the insects that had nearly killed her and still might kill Morgan, depending on what the poison ended up doing to her.

The boy held up his hands, reading her face. “Dont‘ worry, I can teach you to control it over time.“

She frowned. “Over time? And what exactly makes you think I am staying here?“

It was the boys turn to stammer as he looked for words. He glanced from her and then back down to morgan. “ I had… well I was hoping.”

“What? That I would take care of her? Is that your big plan? You ripped a twenty-year old out of her college dorm room and brought her to some mystical place so she could take care of an almost eighty year old woman who is either rude and spiteful or actively hostile?” She hadn’t meant to but Liz was yelling now.”

“Like I said. Morgan is sick.”

“Not. My. Problem.” Liz growled. “Now, forest boy, I want to go home.”

The boy closed his eyes and bowed his head to the ground. His shoulders sagged. After a moment he took a deep breath and waved a hand. As he did so vines twisted out of the ground. They were bright cherry red and wrapped around each other, forming two columns a couple of feet wide. They rose over Liz’s head and turned an invisible corner, weaving through the opposite pillars until the ends stopped just above the dirt. The space in the middle of the vines thickened. The air grew cloudy as solid wood, the same cherry red as the vines except for small dark brown splinters, materialized in the doorframe. There was a final pop as the whole thing became solid.

Liz stared in shock at what she had just seen. She glanced at the boy, who was busy whispering something to Morgan, and walked to the door frame. There was a little brass knob. She turned it and pushed the door open. Immediately cool air blew across her face. She heard the familiar sounds of people whispering in the library; she could even hear the faint sounds of her headphones playing.

“There’s no one else.” The boy said behind her.

“What?”

“You’re the only person. Without you Morgan is alone.”

“And what makes you think-“

“You are studying to be a hospice nurse, right?” The boy asked. “I figured that meant you would want to help.”

Liz sighed and turned away from the door. “I feel bad for her, sure, but you are asking me to give up everything here. I choose now, and that is it. My life is over.”

The boy frowned. “This isn’t a onetime choice. You can make the choice today, and make it again tomorrow.”

“But Morgan said-“

“Let me guess, she said you had three days and then you were stuck here forever?”

Liz nodded, now feeling very stupid for trusting the word of a woman who barely knew her own name anymore.

“She didn’t tell you her name, did she?” The boy asked.

“Morgan.” Liz said.

“You were named after your grandmother.” The boy said. “I don’t know if you knew that.”

“What?”

“Your grandmother. Elizabeth. Elizabeth Morgan.”

Liz started to say something, and then her mouth opened in shock. “She- she died-“

“Ten years ago… in a car crash, the same one that killed two of your uncles.” The boy said. “Only I was able to get to her first, to bring her here just before.”

Liz held onto the door staring between the boy and Morgan-Elizabeth- her grandmother. “I- I- this is just-.” She couldn’t finish her sentence. “So I’m just supposed to stay here, forever, and take care of a sick woman?”

“Like I said, only if you want to. She made her decision after only three days. You don’t even have to do that, just make your decision each day. Over time the door will fade, but it will always be there.”

Liz still found herself suspicious. “Why will the door fade?”

“Because your decisions will change you, because every day you decide to stay here you solidify that decision. I’m not trying to trap you Liz.” He pleaded. “You just have to know that the longer you stay the harder it will be for you to decide to leave. That isn’t magic. That is just how life works.”

Liz looked from the boy to Morgan. She closed her eyes and listened to the hints of music that still sang out from her headphones, a world behind her. She knew what her decision would be even before she pulled the door shut. Damn them both, she couldn’t just leave an old woman-family- to die alone in the woods.

“Thank you,” the boy whispered. And then he was gone.

Liz shuffled back to the fire. She couldn’t believe she had just passed up the opportunity to go home. Beside the fire Morgan stirred and whispered something. Liz bent closer to catch what she was saying.

“…won’t let me… die. Don’t trust the boy…”

Chills crept up Liz’s spine. She looked back at the door, already fading into the night, and tried to remind herself that the old woman was losing her mind. The door would be back. Right?

-End

To My Non-Christian Friends

You ever have one of those days where no matter what you do right, you do something wrong?

I’ve had one of those weeks.

I am a Clinical Research Coordinator. More or less that means I am in charge of running a physician’s clinical trials. I work with cancer patients that have gastro-intestinal cancer -anything from the throat to the anus, with a few stops along the way, is my area. My day to day can range from seeing patients alongside an Oncologist, to running blood tubes to various labs, to completing hours and hours of paperwork on everything that occurred during a patient’s visit.

Technically the physician is in charge of and responsible for everything that goes on as part of their trial -as the pharmaceutical companies like to say, “pretty much, if anything goes wrong, it’s your fault”. But, if you’ve ever been someone’s assistant you know the real truth. In public, they take the fall for the mistake, but the hammer always comes back to the assistant.

This is a job where people take patients whose bodies are actively betraying them and trying to set that to a strict schedule. Needless to say things go wrong. To make matters worse, in a job that is so focused on everything going according to plan, every move is documented, stored, and gone through at least a dozen times. We have actual lists of the mistakes we make that go on permanent record for years. That means I am accountable for mistakes I made years ago, and they can be dug up and interrogated at any time. It doesn’t matter if I have learned from them, grown through them -the North remembers (a bit of Game of Thrones humor for you).

Don’t get me wrong, I love my job, it is interesting, exciting, challenging, and honestly helps improves the lives of people around me. But it brings out the perfectionist in me. Not the I can do everything right perfectionist, but the no mistake for any reason is acceptable perfectionist.

See truthfully I don’t need too much help to find my faults. I have a list in the back of my mind, right next to the voices. Sure I have moments where I know full well my strengths, or moments where I get cocky. But I’m always very aware of the fact that I’m not perfect. At times it is a weight that drags me down. Sometimes it is something I try to overcome. Other times it is something I try desperately to hide. But rarely is it something I am able to just accept.

Anyone else out there with me? Anyone out there know they aren’t perfect, know they make mistakes, fall short of their own standards, and do their best to sweep the worst of it under the rug? There is a thousand ways I could explain it; and another couple hundred ways that we all deal with it, but if you have ever felt that way, hopefully you understand what I’m getting at.

I was having one of the crappier days of my week yesterday; it was a day where I was both handling a tough situation that was not at all my fault -really winning in terms of my coordinatorness, but I was also stuck staring at the dozens of ways that I could have prevented the sitaution -if I had bit a bit more on top of things, if I had seen everything that could have happened, if I had been perfect. In the middle of some seething anger, muttered curses, and mild panic, it hit me.

It would be really amazing to have someone fully see my situation, the things I’ve done right, the ways I could have been better, the mistakes I actually made – actually see all of those, and say it was okay. Not make excuses for them, like I so often do, but FORGIVE them. The most amazing feeling I can possibly think of, to be fully known, have someone admit that they see your faults, and not hold them against you.

As a Christian there are so many times when I get wrapped up in the fact that I should do a morning devotion instead of sleep longer or watch TV. Or I should pray more, or volunteer. There are times when I worry about which side of the political monster I fall on and if I’ve really given the other side enough consideration. There are times I worry about the mistakes I make, and how I need to do better. But at the heart of it all of that is missing the point.

If you took the time to read this far I thank you; I promise I’m about to make my point.

I have 3 words tattooed on my body. Down my ribs in an anagram -meaning it reads as one word going up, and a different word going down – of the words Sinner and Saint. The third word is on a banner hanging over a cross on my arm. The banner says Forgiven.

You don’t have to be clean or good enough to be a Christian

Behind all the political rants; the republican, democrat, abortion, immigration noise – behind all of that, these three words really sum up what it means to be a Christian. So, if you are not a Christ follower, a Jesus freak, or a church goer, I want someone at least to tell you this much. You don’t have to be clean or good enough to be a Christian – in fact, we took a vote a long time ago and those people didn’t make the cut. The truth is that you don’t make the cut. If you don’t lie to yourself you know that; God know that, but he forgives you for it – or he will if you ask for it. The other thing you need to know is that all of us Christians, we are works in progress. We’ve opened ourselves up to letting God work on us, but we are stuck in the middle. We are both Sinners and Saints. We know the good we should do, but we don’t always do it. So please don’t ignore our mistakes, but forgive them. We aren’t perfect, and that is a good thing. And if you are a Jesus follower, chances are that every now and then you forget this little fact. Take a moment to remember it. Let your guard down, admit you aren’t perfect, and know you are loved by someone who sees you more clearly than you see yourself.

If you find yourself sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. If you find yourself all too aware of your imperfections, I would invite you to consider God. Not because you are good enough to make the cut, but because he loves you anyway, and because it is truly awesome to know you are loved while also being truly seen for who you are. There is nothing better.

Driving on Icy Roads

 

They say that there are two types of people in the world: those who like snow, and those who can drive. Over the weekend Saint Louis got its first taste of winter weather this year. While I can’t complain too much, after all it is less than a week until Christmas and I just saw snow plows for the first time, the roads were awful. Commutes of 30 minutes took many upwards of 3 hours, and there were over 700 car accidents reported as of Sunday morning. And I, being far too naive, went out into it willingly.

Now let me say, I am fairly good at driving in icy conditions. I know to take it slow, give plenty of space, and have halfway decent instincts in terms of breaking and steering even if my car starts to slide. But there were two moments Friday night that made me realize venturing outside my door was a BIG mistake.

  1. When the lady next to me sped down an ice covered hill at all of 40; proceeded to spin out and hit the curb; then promptly guided her car back onto the road and floored the gas once more.
  2. And when I looked ahead, while sitting at a light, and saw the hill I was about to drive on had at least 10 cars either pulled over or actively sliding around, all with their flashers on.

While I managed to get my family to and from our destination without incident, my nerves were shot the rest of the night. In addition, I’ve found myself having a hard time trusting the roads ever since; seriously, I’m driving like I’m sixty. You could say I lost faith in the roads.

Sometimes religious people talk about faith and it gets described as this oddly mystical/childish experience where one is supposed to trust something that frankly doesn’t make a whole lot of sense, based on very little evidence, because it is “faith”.

But is that really faith?

Faith is something we are intimately familiar with and experience everyday.

To me faith is putting your foot on the brake of your car and trusting that it will slow you down before you hit something. Faith is getting on an elevator and trusting that it will take you to the next floor safely. Faith is setting an alarm clock before you go to bed and trusting it to wake you up at the appropriate time the next morning. Faith is something we are intimately familiar with and experience everyday.

Faith in God is no different. We should have it because it makes sense and we can trust it to actually work. I haven’t gone into all of the arguments for having faith in God; maybe that is a later post, maybe that is a conversation that you should have with people around you, or private message me and we can chat. Either way. I’ve looked into it and there is enough scientific, historic, and experiential evidence for me to be very comfortable having faith in God.

Having faith that God exists, or that He loves you and died to forgive you, can be very different than having faith that His ways are the best, or that He will take care of you. Those types of are often like an ice covered lake: you put one foot in front of the other, seeing how much weight the surface can really hold. As long as His ways work out well, as long as nothing bad happens, faith is strengthened. But, if a foot goes through the ice, if a promise is broken, often times faith can be damaged. When that happens it is very easy to react much like I have with the roads. We can trust less, proceed with caution, drive like we’re sixty-seven and have vision problems.

So, if you’ve ever found yourself having issues trusting God (especially during this magical holiday season), or if you’ve done some self reflection and thing maybe this could apply to you. Here are some questions you should ask:

  • When did you go through the ice?

Fear or anxiety can often be traced back to specific moments or events. Maybe doubts have been going on for a long time, but when did they start? What cause the first flicker? If you can figure that out you may have an easier time dealing with it.

Or, if there is no “one key moment”; what are your doubts or issues. “God is never there for me” is a lot harder to deal with than “I had the worst week ever last week when my dog pooped on the floor, my heater went out, and a family member got admitted to the hospital”.

Finding the issue itself may not solve anything, but it is the start of fixing it.

  • Were you trusting an Elevator to do your Taxes?

Faith crisis’s almost always come from misplaced expectations.

We expect Faith to be this hallmark movie where if we just really trust, things will work out for the best. But they don’t always. Sometimes sick people don’t get better; sometimes a bad week gets worse. God promised to take care of us, he promised to provide, and he promised to never leave us. Having faith means understanding that in light of and in spite of the bad times.

Knowing what God has actually promised you is a great way to avoid “Faith Crisis’s” and make sure your faith isn’t damaged by hard times. If you know what God has promised you will spend less time saying “God, why did you let this happen?” and more time saying “God, help me get through this.”

  • Get out on that Bridge and Jump baby, Jump!

Much like I need to stop driving like I’m in my sixties, if your faith has been hurt you cannot limp along forever. It’s not healthy and frankly it isn’t faith. Faith is an exercise of trust. You have seen that God can be trusted, maybe you have even experienced that trust. Faith means taking that trust a step further, going beyond what you are comfortable with.

So, maybe that means trusting that God’s way of life is better than yours and loving more, forgiving more. Maybe that means finding things God has promised you and asking him to make good on that. Frankly if you think about it you probably know what that means better than I do. The point is to go out to the middle of the icy pond, put all your weight on it, and jump up and down repeatedly. (This was a metaphor, please don’t actually do that).

 

There is this picture in the Bible of weak faith; an infant being tossed back and forth by the waves (Ephesians 4:14). Every major life event, every crisis, slamming us back to our knees as we consider if what we believe is even real. On the contrast that mean that mature faith should stand strong, it should barely be moved. Sure we cry out in pain, we hurt, we struggle, but mature faith isn’t rocked to its core by every crisis. It stands firm. That is what I want; how about you?

 

Hiding, or Being Respectful?

So I’ve posted about my living situation a bit here and there on this blog. For the full messy details see my first post here (https://preachygrub.wordpress.com/2016/07/20/the-five-reasons-im-still-a-christian). It may not contain a detailed blow by blow, but it will give you some context as to some of my family’s struggles.

Recently my mother-in-law had some worsening health problems and was in the hospital for a few days, followed by a two week stay in an inpatient rehabilitation center to build her strength back up. At the risk of sounding like a terrible person, I have to say it was a nice break for my wife and I, who are caregivers for her. Don’t get me wrong, we were not happy that she was sick, but the break was a welcome one. A silver lining, so to speak.

As we prepared for her to return home, my wife and I were discussing some of the things that would change around our house. Some of them were small things, the simple loss of space from having another person in our small home. Others were a bit larger, like the drain on our free time, or the emotional toll of having to care for another person.

One of the issues we ended up discussing was how we would handle our faith when she returned. As I have mentioned previously, my wife and I are Christian. My mother-in-law, on the other hand, is not. I think technically she may still consider herself Catholic. In practice though she is a little closer to either atheist or agnostic.

Regardless of what she calls herself, we have very different worldview, and at times it makes living together difficult. It shows up in our choice of wall decorations: A nice quote about prayer? Or a picture of a woman breaking a broom with the words F*** Housework across the top? It becomes an issue when we consider praying before a meal, or teaching our son to pray while in front of her. It is not to say that she has ever told us not to express our faith (although there have been subtle hints that worship music is not appreciated, and invitations to join us for church are all but laughed at), but we struggle with the line between respecting her choices by not shoving our faith down her throat,  and being able to practice our faith in our own home.

I don’t think I am alone in this struggle. With so many ethnicities, religions, and world views present in the United States today, it is almost impossible not to run into someone whose views are different from your own on a daily basis. As you do, the question that often arises is where is the line between respecting their beliefs and expressing your own.

So where is the balance? Where should one draw the line in terms of not shoving your faith down someone else throat, but also still being free to live and practice your beliefs? I’m not great at this, I will admit it here and now, but the following are some thoughts from my experience.

  • Respect, don’t hide.

There is a fine line between respecting someone else’s right to not share your beliefs, and hiding them completely so as to never offend anyone. The key is respect. If someone doesn’t agree with your beliefs, avoid making them participate in them. This would involve things like mandatory prayers or music or decorations that they are forced to listen to or look at. Simply praying around them, reading your Bible, or practicing your faith in other manners that they can see, but don’t have to participate in, is a different matter. In that case you are merely giving yourself the same freedoms and respect that you are extending to others. If they get offended still, it may just be their issue, not yours.

  • Start dialogue.

After the riots happened in Ferguson, Missouri, my work developed several trainings on Diversity and Inclusion. Aside from being horribly painful, they did give a few good pointers on dealing with different viewpoints. One of the best tips was to start dialogue. By talking about our differences we not only acknowledge that they exist, but we acknowledge that they are okay. Often people feel respected if you seek to understand what they believe. They may even ask questions about your own beliefs. As a result you both may feel more comfortable practicing faith. And, if the other party is not interested in talking, at least you tried.

  • The Least Common Denominator

In Romans 14:1 Paul tells believes to respect the faith of their weaker brothers. This command was given specifically to help issues where Christians had different opinions on what was right or wrong. He was telling those who were okay with things like eating meat or not observing certain holidays, to respect the faith of those who had more strict views, at least while they were around one another. While he wasn’t specifically talking about issues between different faiths, I think the point applies. Sometimes, especially when you are around people whose faith is more strict than your own, it is helpful to yield to their stricter views. This could mean differing to a man during a conversation if a couple is from a culture where that is more appropriate (possibly making both the husband and wife more comfortable). Or it could be as simple as avoiding swearing around those who are offended by that type of language. It is a fine line, and you have to be careful not to let it turn into hiding, but sometimes it is necessary.

Like I said before, I am not a pro at this topic, but I am hoping to get better. Ultimately, Jesus said that we were like a light used to see in the darkness, and it makes no sense to simply hide that light so no one can see it. While I struggle with not wanting to offend others by practicing my own beliefs, in the future I think I will be striving to respect those around me, and not worrying about giving offense.

 

I Will Think Fondly of You

“I’ll pray for you. ”

I said the words to a friend the other day and they caught in my throat about halfway out. My relationship with God was damaged a while ago and I’m still healing. One of the main things that has yet to get back to usual is my prayer life. Right now it is sporadic, short, and far smaller than it used to be or should be. So, when I started to tell my friend that I would pray from him I had to ask myself. Would I? Because in all honesty the likely hood of my remembering to actually pray, and then on top of that to talk to God about his needs, were slim. But then the other question that came to my mind was if it even mattered?

People ask for prayer all the time. People of faith. People at the end of their rope. People who believe in the power of prayer. People who are just saying it to say something pleasant. But, when I say I will pray for someone, do I mean that I will actually pray for them or their situation? Or do I simply mean that I will think of their situation and hope for the best?

What does prayer even do? Why do we need to pray? What good is prayer if God is just going to do his own thing anyway? I’ve asked these questions before and talked with people about them several times. And the honest truth is that I don’t have a great answer. I have no idea why God wants us to pray when He already knows that will happen and what we are going to ask for. I don’t know why I should pray if bad things are going to happen despite my prayers. I also don’t get why I should ask a bunch of people to pray for me, rather than pray for myself. Is God running some sort of prayer petition and only responds if we get over 100,000 prayer signatures? What is the point?

Despite not having those answer, I think prayer is important. Much like when I was in the habit of working out, when I was in the habit of praying regularly, I could tell the difference – in myself, in my faith, in how I say the world. I don’t want you to just take my personal, subjective, experience on it though. So here are some examples on why I think we should take prayer seriously.

  • The Example of Samuel – Samuel was a leader of the people of Israel back in the old Testament. He guided the people, led them, taught them, and took care of them his whole life. At the end, however, the people said he wasn’t good enough. They demanded a king to replace him. As he is accepting this, basically resigning from office, he says this, “23 Moreover, as for me, far be it from me that I should sin against the Lord by ceasing to pray for you…” (1 Samuel 12:23). See Samuel thought prayer was so important that he considered it a sin, missing the mark of what was actually right, to not pray for the people. He thought so strongly that he prayers did something that to not pray was, to him, a disservice to his people. How crazy would it be if we thought we were being a bad coworker, friend, brother, or sister, if we were forgetting to pray for these people regularly?

 

  • Paul, a leader of the New Testament church this time, was writing a letter to a newer church and as he was wrapping up with some general thoughts on life he encouraged them to “17 pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17). According to him we should be constantly talking to God. In a way that makes a lot of sense. Not that God is telling us that the blueberry muffin for breakfast is a sin, but the chocolate chip one is his good and perfect will (although …chocolate…). Anyway. I think Paul meant that if we are constantly listening to God and talking to him maybe we would be more conscious about our actions and if they were in line with His will. And also, it leaves us open to God telling us when maybe we should show a little extra compassion, really ask a coworker if things are okay. Maybe if we were constnaly in communication God’s will would be done a little more.

 

  • And finally, Jesus prayed. God, when He was here, took the time to pray. I’m not going to get into why He did or how that exactly worked. I don’t know how His humanity/Godhood mixed so I don’t know if this was an example, or necessary. I think it was necessary for him even, but regardless it was a picture for us. He got up and went away from people to pray (Luke 5:16) . He took time out of his morning for it (Mark 1:35). When things got bad- like he knew he was about to be captured and beaten and executed bad- he got his friends together and he prayed (Matthew 26:36-46). Again, it wasn’t just sending up the good feels into the world. When he came back down and found his friends sleeping instead of praying for him, he yelled at them. Because in his eyes prayer did something.

My wife and I are reading this prayer book together. “Reading”. To be honest we are really bad at taking the time to actually do even that. But what we have read has been really interesting. One thing the author talked about was treating prayer like a conversation, like someone was actually on the other side. Praying because we need to talk to God to grow our relationship with him, much like we would our spouse or friend.

I don’t know how prayer works. I have had a lot of prayers unanswered, big prayers, little prayers. I don’t get why that is. I don’t know why God, who sees everything and knows everything, needs us to ask for things or talk to him about stuff. I don’t know if or why praying with several people is more effective that praying by yourself.

What I do know is that prayer matters. God loves us, and He has told us this is how we talk to him, how He talks to us, how we get His attention. He has told us that if we ask He will give, and that He loves to give us good gifts. I know that He is near and listening. So, if you ask me to pray for you, know that when I say yes, I am not saying I will think fondly of you, but I will pray for you. I will ask the God of the universe for this thing, on your behalf. And I don’t know how or why prayer works. God didn’t see fit to give me those answers. He just told me to do it.

The Everyman’s Addict

I saw a story on the news the other day, most of you probably saw it too. A man and a woman were found passed out in their car from a heroin overdose. In the backseat, strapped to his car seat and unable to get out on his own, was a little boy. Overnight these two became the face of a growing problem in our country, heroin addiction. But, if we really look at the larger picture, heroin only one part of the problem plaguing our society, addiction itself. Alcoholism and binge and underage drinking remain a concern, as do other issues such as addiction to drugs like Methamphetamines, cocaine, sex addiction, or issues like anorexia, or bolemia.

Addiction is not always so sinister though. Many people would say they have an addiction Netflix (guilty), or sweets (guilty again), or there are a select few who would even say they are addicted to books (you know who you are, and yes, also guilty). While they represent a more innocent side of the problem, a case could be made that these things are also, in fact, addictions. The definition for alcoholism varies, but MedicalNewsToday defines an alcoholic as “A man or a woman who suffers from alcoholism – they have a distinct physical desire to consume alcohol beyond their capacity to control it, regardless of all rules of common sense” (http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/157163.php).  Take out the word Alcohol and put in Heroin, narcotics, eating, anorexia, sex, anything fits. Addiction is the disease, the manifestations of that disease might be different, as might the symptoms or severity, but it is all addiction. It is all some sort of out of control urge.

I was reading this blog, “beautybeyondbones,” written by a girl who suffered from severe anorexia (seriously, if you haven’t, go check her out, https://beautybeyondbones.com/read-this-first ). The way she speaks about her addiction is a clear beacon of truth. Not only does she describe her own journey, which is nothing short of amazing, but she also puts clear words to the thoughts, feelings, and lies that she had to deal with during her recovery. Anyone who knows someone going through an eating disorder, struggling with it themselves, or going through any sort of addiction could benefit from her blog. As I read through her story I found myself agreeing, understanding, relating, and even taking notes to apply to my own life. See there is another side of addiction that is not typically considered. Sin. Paul wrote in Romans 7:15, ” I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.” Christian or not, know this, sin is wrong not just because God declared the rules and made some things okay and others not okay. Sin is literally missing the mark. There is a way that leads to True Life, to the best life possible, and sin is not that way. Sin, although it may seem fun or right at the time (sound at all like addictive reasoning?) will ultimately have negative consequences. So anyone who struggles with sin, especially those who know what is right but still fall short, would benefit from knowing more about addiction.

It all starts with a lie. Typically it is whispered and you won’t even know you’ve heard it. Only years later, often after lots of therapy and struggle, do the actual words emerge. But it almost always goes like this. When I am _____ I need _____ to be okay or happy.  It can be even more generic than that. It could just be a belief that you need ____ in order to function. Example, “When I am stressed I need to get away, shut down, just have a drink, cut loose, the list goes on, in order to be okay and function.” In most 12 step groups there is an acronym, HALT, that stands for extreme emotions those with addictions should avoid: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. The understanding is that emotional or physical extremes make us want comfort and support, they cause us to reach for our “drug”, be it something as sinister as narcotics, or as innocent as a tub of ice cream. Sound at all like sin? If you know what is right, but you choose to do something wrong, part of you looked at that situation and said that the wrong thing was the only way to get through it.

If you know what is right, but you choose to do something wrong, part of you looked at that situation and said that sin was the only way to get through it.

So how do you deal with addiction? The answer is like the disease, obvious and a lot harder than it sounds. You combat the lie with truth. The first lie to be conquered is that the addiction is the only option. For those in the throes of addiction, where the disease has begun to severely damage their everyday lives, addiction is the only option. Their “drug” is the only way to feel normal, to deal with stress, to be happy, to get through the day. Life has taught them that any time they don’t turn to the “drug” they won’t be satisfied, they will still long for it, and they will end up going back. Especially in cases like severe alcoholism or narcotic addiction, there are mountains to overcome before this lie can be conquered. After all, any effort to stop using is immediately met with withdrawals. Without the drug they get sick, shaky, feverish, nauseous; it feels like they are dying. So they go back. Even in the case of more “innocent” addictions, it can be hard to see other options. And if you find them, there will be a voice in your head, telling you that the “better” way is really just a patch, only the addiction is actually going to satisfy. Sin is not easy to let go of.

So… given all that… here are a things to consider.

  • Jesus said, “I am the way, THE TRUTH, and the life” (John 14:6). You want to deal with an addiction of any severity? You have to combat it with truth. The best way to do that? Focus on it constantly. Both on the truth that you don’t need your “drug of choice” to live, and also on the truth of how Jesus describes life in general. This is not a magical cure that will win the fight in a day, sin still has consequences, but this is the WAY out. This will ultimately set you free.
  • The best way to prevent an addiction? Know the truth from the start. It is much harder to be deceived by a lie when you actively know what is true. The Bible urges us to meditation on the truth day and night (Joshua 1:8), and Jesus says that those who listen to what he says and do it are “like a wise man who built his house on the rock.The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock” (Matthew 7:24, 25). If you actively know Truth it will be much harder to fall for a lie.
  • The first step is admitting there is a problem. The second is getting help. The Bible commonly talks about sin in terms of darkness. There is a reason for that. Secrets thrive in the shadows. In the shadows we don’t have to admit that the problem exists, or how bad it has gotten. In 12 step programs the first couple of steps deal with how to quite “using”. The rest deal with revealing how bad the problem was. If you want to deal with an issue you have to admit that one exists. One of the best ways to do that is to get help. Either tell a friend or family member, seek counseling, or get other professional help if the issue is that severe.

Every man and woman in this world is an addict. They could be on the news because their addiction has become that severe, or they could be living beside us day by day, secretly hiding their small sins. They could be writing a blog. There is a way that leads to life free of addiction, free of sin, and it starts with the truth.